It is almost Valentine’s Day and red hearts and relationship advice abounds! But when it comes to nurturing a healthy relationship with your significant other, most advice talks about supporting each other psychologically and sexually. But what about promoting your partner’s health and wellness? And your own in the process? Surely being healthy together should be as important as other aspects of your relationship?
Yes, the key to an enduring and strong relationship with your loved one is a stress-free healthy life. So it is time that couples consider their health, physical fitness, and well-being seriously, as a couple.
Also, though it may seem superficial, when you look good you automatically feel good about yourself. And feeling good about yourself cascades down and affects other aspects of your relationship with your partner. So if you both work together at looking and feeling better, that can only benefit your relationship.
If you’re interested in improving your relationship long-term, start by working together toward a healthier lifestyle.
Here are some tips to becoming healthy together:
Encourage Each Other
In order to promote a healthier lifestyle, it’s best that both make a commitment not only to themselves but to each other as well. Couples need to work together to support each other’s health. This means being supportive and also acknowledging the fact that men and women lose weight differently, and cope with emotions differently. Women do lose slower, and are victims of hormonal fluctuations, and retain more water, and can resort to emotional eating. So progress and success measures need to take that in consideration… It is not a competition.
Work together to make fitness a priority. Join the local gym together or go for walks after work or following dinner. Couples can also take up some physical activity, couples yoga, or sports together. When there is someone to accompany you; this will motivate and benefit both your health.
Tips for staying active:
- Agree on a moderate-intensity exercise, such as walking or yoga, to do together.
- If you prefer to work out alone, find the activity that best suits you.
- Look for more ways to move during the day, such as taking the stairs, vacuuming, gardening, cleaning the house, washing the car and walking instead of taking the car to do errands.
Follow a Plan to Eat Healthy
Take control of your health by starting a structured healthy diet together (www.tlcforwellbeing.com)
The advantages of dieting together include mutual support and inspiring one another.
With better health as a mutual goal, decisions about what foods to buy and prepare and where to dine out are typically easier for couples determined to lose weight.
Planning and cooking nutritious meals together is also a way where you can spend some great time together. Take the time to plan meals in advance, so you do not fall back into the fast food trap.
Avoid Emotional or ‘Boredom’ Eating
Women are more prone to this, whereas men may cave to pressure from friends to have a beer or a take out meal. But food is often used to alleviate stress, sadness or boredom.
Do you crave chocolate when you’re sad, bored, or depressed? Perhaps you or your partner have some bad habits of settling down in front of the television with snacks of a take out meal after a hard day at work.
It’s common for people to eat in response to hurt feelings, depression, and anxiety, and women do tend to have stronger emotional ties to food.
When you look to food as consolation, it’s difficult to stop eating when you are full or to resist comfort foods. And if you don’t use food to elevate your mood, you may find it difficult to understand why your partner finds relief in eating a huge bowl of ice cream.
Here are some tips to help you and your partner avoid emotional eating:
Alert your partner when you feel a binge coming on. If possible, take a short walk or a bike ride together to take the focus away from food.
Make a list of non-food related activities to do together or alone when you have the urge to drown your sorrows in food.
Be attentive to food and mood links throughout your day. Keep a journal, recording everything you eat, when you eat it, and your emotions at the time.
Bring Your Lunch
Planning your lunch ahead of time can help you avoid unhealthy food choices and stick to your health goals. It is great if you can have lunch together, to help each other stay on track. If that is not possible, pack and bring your own lunches to work. Cafeteria or fast food is often high in calories, fat and sugar. If you take the time to make and bring your own lunches, you will both be less prone to taking in empty calories.
Recognize Your Differences
Even when you agree about good nutrition and physical activity, you and your partner may run into differences that test the bond between you. So make it a partnership with understanding and acknowledging these differences.
Perhaps one of the most common drawbacks to losing weight as a couple is the result of biological differences between men and women.
Both partners need to understand: Comparing numbers on the bathroom scale can create frustration for the woman in the couple.
It is typically easier for men to lose weight and keep it off.
Men can also eat more than women without gaining, and lose weight by cutting back less.
Men owe their calorie-burning advantage to more muscle, which speeds metabolism.
At the same time, a woman’s weight loss may not show up on the scale as quickly her male partner’s. When you lose weight, some of it is water.
Men have a higher concentration of water in their bodies, so they tend to shed weight faster.
Pre-menopausal women are more likely to see fluctuations in weight because of monthly water-weight gain and loss, too.
So if you are a woman and your diet partner is a man, try not to get discouraged if he seems to be dropping weight more quickly than you are. Set your own goals and stick to them, and let your partner do the same. Try to support and encourage each other without making comparisons.
Some tips on Weighing…
As discussed above, losing weight is often a slower process for women, making daily weigh-ins frustrating for women who have male diet partners. To avoid tension with your partner:
Find the weigh-in style that suits you both
Concentrate on how your clothes fit and how you feel rather than what the scale says.
Avoid comparing weight loss with partners… It is not a competition.
Finally, Be partners not adversaries
There is bound to be a problem if one of you takes on the role of “food police,” monitoring everything the other eats. And don’t fall into the trap of using your partner’s lapses as an excuse to avoid sticking with your own weight loss plan, neither of you will make much progress losing weight.
It is important that you motivate and inspire each other to achieve and excel your health goals.
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